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How’s your January going?

Did you set goals or resolutions for the New Year?

If you did have you managed to stick to them?

Or have you given up?

It’s hard isn’t? The weather is cold, you’re working, looking after children or parents or both. There are only so many hours in the day and you don’t have time to exercise or cook properly. So you leave it to another day.

And you keep getting told that you just need to change your mindset and everything will magically fall in to place.

But you don’t know how to do that, you’ve tried affirmations but you really sure your were doing it right.

The thing is that yes, you do need to change your mindset but the changes need to start in your body.

The body stores all your memories, hurts and traumas, the emotions you haven’t processed because you’re too scared to feel them again. This causes energy blockages and prevents the body functioning as well as it can so it sends you signals to get you to process the emotions you’ve stored.

We ignore these signals or squash down the emotions with food, alcohol, nicotine or drugs. 

The body doesn’t give up it keeps sending signals and you end up with a physical illness or anxiety and depression or all three.

So how do we solve this?

We do it by getting back in touch with the body. Learning to love and respect it. 

When we respect the body we will listen to it, we will process those emotions and we won’t be reaching for whatever junk we were using to supress them.

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Why do I need to change my relationship with my body?

Why do I need to change my relationship with my body?

A lot of us don’t have the greatest relationship with our bodies.

We eat too much or eat the wrong foods, we drink alcohol, coffee and tea in quantities that harm us. We don’t take enough exercise or we drive ourselves to the brink doing too much. We stay up late at night scrolling social media looking for the answers to our problems.

Of course we don’t do this to punish ourselves or because we intrinsically hate ourselves or because we want to create future health problems.

We do it because we are trying to not to feel, to acknowledge the pain we are in.  We don’t want it to resurface, it hurt us and we don’t want experience that hurt again.
   

Our bodies store the memories and the trauma we have suffered. 

And the body wants to release the hurt, the trauma, so it triggers an emotion or feeling and even sometimes actual pain in the body.

Most of us don’t want to go through that hurt again so we we stuff it down by distracting ourselves with food, drink, exercise, social media, and so on.

This is  not a conscious decision, we have developed patterns and habits that have just become automatic. Feel sad? Chocolate will cure it!

Some of us were brought up with food seen as a reward or a special treat or a way to avoid dealing with a problem. Instead teaching us how to deal with our emotions we were taught to avoid them and feed the body.

In time, the body begins to rebel. It really wants you to acknowledge those stored memories and traumas and deal with them. It tries to catch your attention by creating feelings. And we wonder why we can’t shift this feeling, why it keeps coming up? What is wrong with me?

When we think these thoughts often enough they become part of our subconscious, we create negative,  anxious and depressive thoughts and we feed them with food, alcohol or drugs because that is what we have been taught.

So how do we change this?

We change it connecting with the body. By quietening the mind and allowing the body to speak. Listening to the body, feeling where those traumas and memories are stored and releasing them.

We reconnect with the body by learning to appreciate it and respect it for the marvellous miracle that it is. 

We practice gratitude for all that it brings us, and accept its limitations and respect its needs.

We acknowledge that the body knows itself. 

When we have reconnected with the body on a physical level and learnt to love, accept and respect it, we will find that our habits change. We are no longer reaching for food or drink to quell our feelings, the body trusts us to listen and deal with the emotions it triggers.

We step into our true power when we have linked the body, the mind and the spirit. When we can listen to our body and know intuitively what we need. 

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What is your relationship with your body?

Do you love it? Accept it as it is, with no desires to change anything?

Do you treat it as a temple? Feed it healthy and nourishing foods? Keep it hydrated? Get plenty of sleep and sufficient exercise?

Or are you like most of the rest of us? Looking critically in the mirror and finding things you don’t like, parts that you want to be bigger, smaller, a different shape.

Are you influenced by what you see the media, by the whimsies of fashion, this season short skirts and thigh gaps, next season low cut tops and cleavages and feel you have to follow the trends in order to look good or fit in?

Would you like to be able to love YOUR body just as it is? To accept all its perceived flaws?

Because, believe the flaws you see are just your perception. The flaws other people think they see in other’s bodies stem from their hang ups about their own bodies. We judge because we feel judged. We reflect and mirror our own thoughts and feelings about our bodies onto others.

My body is not perfect, well not by society’s standards anyway, and my doctor would probably have a thing or two to say about my weight and occasionally not so great diet.

BUT and here’s the big BUTT! I have long ago accepted my body, and I realise that as I go through life that my body is constantly changing and for most of those changes there is absolutely nothing I can do that will affect them, growth and maturity happens to all of us. Yes, I could have surgery or use chemicals to hold back the effects of aging, but I reckon it’ll catch up with me one way or another and isn’t it better to go with the flow? Yes, my face and my hands may show that I have lived, smiled, laughed, loved, cried, worried and washed a shed load of dishes but that is what I am here for to experience life in all its glory.

To try and change my body would be to try and wipe away the experiences that have shaped me and it.

Every day, I give thanks to my body for carrying me through life. I try to exercise, eat healthily and get enough sleep. I don’t always succeed, and it shows. I have learned to be compassionate with myself, to forgive myself, and to tune into my body and ask what it needs to recover, to restore its equilibrium.

You see, we only have one body, the body we’re in. This our vehicle for life and just as you wouldn’t drive your car on flat tyres or without oil or coolant you shouldn’t be driving your body on incorrect fuel or lack of sleep.

The body though is not just a mechanical device, it is a whole system. A system that comprises of the physical, the mental, the emotional and spiritual, each of which feeds the other.

When we allow our emotions to drive we become overwhelmed and we then disregard the physical needs of the body. We feed it the wrong food, we drink alcohol, we smoke or take drugs all in an attempt to drown out those feelings because they scare us. Most of us grew up being told that feelings were bad, that we shouldn’t show anger, or cry, that showing our emotional side was somehow bad and we became embarrassed by emotions so we stuff them down and refuse to feel them.

BUT the body knows, my belief is that all our memories, our experiences good and bad are stored in the body. Have you ever thought about this? How you can pinpoint where in the body you feel something? How many of us get butterflies in our stomachs when we are scared or excited about something? A restriction in our chest and breathing when we feel anxious? Perhaps a headache when remember a particular event?

These memories and emotions stored in the body create energy blockages, the body tries to clear them by drawing your attention to that part of your body by creating a feeling or an emotion. Of course, we then, being human, get our thought processes involved and allow our thoughts to run away with us, to remember bad things or create catastrophic scenarios for ourselves. The brain and body don’t distinguish between the real and the imagined, so every time we take take ourselves down those scary avenues in our thoughts we’re adding to those energy blockages in the body.

And the body wants them cleared so it produces a physical sensation and an emotion to get your attention and we go off on the merry-go-round again!

We need to come back to the body, to the physical, to the vehicle in which we reside. When we learn to love and respect and give gratitude to the wonderful body we are in we are taking the first steps towards healing all of us. When we stop ignoring the body’s messages, and trying to drown them out with substances that are bad for it, and listen to them and give the body what it needs our whole system calms down because the body no longer has to shout for you you to hear, to act. A side effect of this is that a lot of those scary emotions will then subside.

Do you want to learn to Love YOUR Body?

To develop a loving, grateful relationship with that has the potential to change your whole life?

I’m working on a series of meditations to help you learn to Love YOUR Body and thus embark on a life changing journey.

Go to my COMING SOON for more information or click the link below to be kept in the loop!

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𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞!🙄🤷‍♀️

Was what one young lady who came to me suffering from anxiety announced as she lay on the treatment couch.

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙨𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩:

“When her hands were on my head I could see colours that I’d never seen before, really vividly. They were beautiful bright pinks and purples. I felt really intensely happy, so much so that I was trying not to smile. I could see the silhouette of a pair of hands making calming rocking motions. I thought maybe they were Niamh’s hands, and I could see them through my eyelids but when I opened my eyes to check I realised they weren’t hers. I felt very at peace and was overcome by a feeling of pure contentment. When they went away, I felt kind of sad, and wanted them back as their presence was really comforting. I then became very aware of my body and could feel parts of it that I don’t think I’ve ever felt before. There were strange, tingly pulses in my legs. I was super aware of my position and felt like my spine was misaligned with my legs, to the extent that I had to adjust to feel “straight.” I began to feel sad, but in an intense way and it felt almost good? Sort of cathartic, like it was good to feel it and everything was just right. I became a bit overwhelmed and scared for a bit as what I was feeling was really weird and intense and I’ve never felt anything like it. 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗶𝗸𝗶 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗻𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲.Towards the end I was beginning to see the happy colours again, but they were dimmer and a bit fuzzy.” 🌈🌈

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𝙄𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝?

Maybe!

 

But probably not!

 

While some people may experience deep healing with their first Reiki treatment most do not.

 

Reiki promotes, or in some cases starts the self-healing process, and more sessions are required to keep your energy balanced and the healing process working.

 

If you think of a problem you’ve had for a while, say a particularly knotty muscle, you know one massage isn’t going be enough to deal with it.

 

It is the same with Reiki although it works on an energetic level some of the blocks we experience may have been in place for a long time, and some of our ingrained thought processes cause those blockages so it takes a while and a few treatments to work through them.

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I do not feel any different, so Reiki doesn’t work!!!

I have heard this a few times. People get up off the treatment couch saying they feel quite relaxed but nothing else.

They were expecting fireworks or at the very least their ailment to be immediately cured. Reiki does not work like that. It is more subtle. It works quietly away in the background. It activates the body’s self-healing.

We are more than the body, we are our thoughts, our emotions, and our spiritual side too – Reiki works on all these levels.

When I was suffering from panic attacks Reiki brought me peace in the moment, but it was a while before I was able to track down what was causing the anxiety and deal with the external problems and then my thoughts around it. Reiki gave me the calmness, the clarity to be able to seek out the causes for the anxiety both external and internal. The panic attacks became less intense and less frequent and then faded out altogether as I dealt with the issues in my life that were the root cause of the stress and anxiety I felt that led to the overthinking which led to panic attacks.

But it is only looking back that I can fully see the process I went through at the time it was far from comfortable. I kept going with the daily self-treatments and monthly Reiki shares, and the occasional treatment from another Reiki practitioners. A few years ago panic attacks were ruling my life, now I could not tell you when I last had one.

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Panic attacks…

Ten years ago, I was a depressed anxious mess.

Struggling to get from one moment to the next.

One day I had a panic attack on the bus. I truly thought I was having a heart attack. I didn’t know what to do so I got off the bus and walked the rest of the way, my breathing getting shallower and faster, my chest constricted with pain.

I decided to go the GP. I didn’t get the reassurance I thought I would, instead the GP seemed really concerned and I was sent for a battery of tests. The results trickled in over the next few days, all fine. My heart was in robust health, for my age!

At no time did any medical person suggest a panic attack might have been the cause of my pain, it was only through googling my symptoms that it began to dawn on me that is indeed what it was.

That realisation though seemed only to make matters worse they began to be increasingly frequent, to the point I was afraid to leave the house.

I had the tools to supposedly deal with anxiety, I regularly practised yoga and meditation. But they required concentrating on the breath and trying to focus on and control my breath when I was struggling to breath just increased the feeling of panic, and made my breathing quicker, shallower, I thought I was going to pass out.

Another day on the bus, when I couldn’t get off, I decided to try Reiki. I connected to Reiki and placed my hands lightly on my knees. I began to feel the heat and tingling in my hands that I normally associate with Reiki, concentrating on this and the feel of my of the warmth of my hands on my knees allowed my breathing to return to normal and the panic subsided. I felt a sense of calmness wash over me and almost missed my stop.

Reiki had given me hope, a window into the future.

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Healing hands…

I was very awkward as a child.🧒

Always falling over, constantly scraped knees and bruises. 🤕Even managed to cut the inside of my lower lip on a lawnmower🙄 (that’s a story for another day).

I remember my mother would apply something we called red stuff to the wounds and then a quick cuddle I was mended and on my way.❤️‍🩹

With my children is was a wet paper towel, a kiss and a cuddle. 🥰

As far as I’m aware wet paper towels have no medicinal or healing properties what did work though was the hug.

Isn’t amazing how even the smallest touch can instantly make us feel better physically and emotionally.💖

We all have healing hands 🤲 when it comes to those we love. 💕

When did you last use your healing hands?

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I never thought I could be happy…

For years, I suffered from low level depression and anxiety, that had really just become so much part of who I was that I accepted it as just life. I always had worries, about money, about my children, my parents, my health and the health of others. My relationship was breaking down and I lived in a state of fear. Whenever I tried to discuss it with anyone, I was made feel like I was just complaining.

Yet people told me they were in awe of me, I was so organised holding down a full-time job, bringing up three children almost single-handedly, I never forgot a mufti day or any of the children’s activities. But I was like the proverbial swan, serene and graceful on the surface but paddling furiously underneath.

Then there was a major re-organisation on the work front and my job began causing me huge amounts of stress, at the same my daughter’s illness exacerbated, and while I still worried about finances, I took the decision to leave work and take some time out.

That is when the full force of depression and anxiety hit. Having, for the first time in years, time to myself I found I was at a loss, I had no idea how to sit still, to just be in the moment. I had spent decades rushing from one over-planned task to the next. Now there were days of nothingness facing me, I rattled around the house just waiting for school pick-up time. I was so burnt out and so lacking in confidence I barely knew how to talk to anyone at the school gates. I found myself withdrawing, going deeper and deeper into the dark well of depression. There did not seem to be a way out.

It was through a chance discussion with someone at a yoga class that I subscribed to Hay House and started to receive emails from them about podcasts and books. One day I opened one of those emails and it was offering me a free book about Reiki. I read the book and I literally lit up from the inside out, I knew I had to find out more and embarked on my journey to become a Reiki Master/Teacher.

I never thought that I could be happy or stress free yet every day I wake up with a smile on my face and feel so grateful to be here and for the experiences and opportunities that lead me to this point. Reiki helped me find the calm, the peace, the clarity I sought and to make some very difficult but rewarding changes to my life. Now I use Reiki to help others do the same.

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Why Reiki?

A lot of people have heard of Reiki, they know it’s some sort of alternative holistic treatment but that’s as far as it goes. They don’t understand it and are reluctant to try it, yet the same people will have needles stuck in them even though they are not quiet sure how acupuncture works either. They have no idea how their skeleton works or how the muscles, ligaments and tendons that support it function, yet they will allow someone to poke prod and manipulate them without understanding what they are doing to their body.

I’m not dissing other therapies, far from it and the majority of practitioners are well qualified in their discipline and continue their professional development and updating their skills.

Reiki is not yet a mainstream treatment and therefore not as trusted as others that have been around for longer. It can work on its own or as a useful adjunct to other therapies.

Reiki uses the body’s own energy system to promote self-healing, the process is triggered by the practitioner connecting to Reiki and allowing the energy to flow via their hands to the person receiving the treatment. The recipient will sometimes feel this as hot or cold sensation, sometimes as tingling or emotional release. The treatment room provides a safe space for the client to let go of emotional, physical and mental blockages. Frequently, a client will only feel a deep sense of relaxation during the treatment but will report back several days later that something has changed, their mood lifted, the solution to a problem suddenly becomes clear, a difficult decision becomes easy to make. They are sleeping better which has a knock effect on their whole life.

Reiki continues to work behind the scenes after the treatment is finished, though regular treatments are required to completely remove blockages in the body’s energy system to allow for complete healing.

What I love about Reiki is that is non-invasive, it doesn’t even need to be hands on if the client is nervous about being touched. There is no need to undress, and I always offer a blanket or other covering should the client feel vulnerable lying on the table; especially where there are emotional blocks being released as feeling, or being, naked adds to the vulnerability.

Reiki can be sent over distances, the client doesn’t even need to be in the room with you. I have sent to people in different countries and time zones, and they report feeling the effects of it.

I use Reiki daily myself, frequently giving myself a treatment before bed and despite the unusually hot weather here at the moment I have no trouble sleeping!

Emotional problems often manifest as physical symptoms, and as we begin to understand more about how the body works we are discovering a greater mind/body/spirit connection than was even thought possible1. Reiki works on all levels, allowing us to achieve a relaxed body, which in turn allows us to still the mind giving us access to our subconscious and inner knowledge to work through the things that are holding us back in life.

 

 

 

  1. If you wish to explore this further I recommend You Can Heal Your Life by  Louise Hay,  The Biology of Belief  by Bruce Lipton and How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body by David R Hamilton