How does your anxiety or depression serve you?

A few years ago I was asked a question that shocked me to the core.

Shook me up.

Sent me into a spiral of

anxiety,

overthinking,

that actually gave me huge insights into how I was treating myself,

allowing others to treat me,

how my thought processes you doing me a huge disservice.

It was one of my turning points!

So I’m asking you the same question today:

๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™™๐™ค๐™š๐™จ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ญ๐™ž๐™š๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™™๐™š๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™š๐™ง๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช?

Like I did, you might be having a mini tantrum right now!

I mean how dare I suggest that your anxiety or depression somehow serves a purpose?

It’s not as if you actually want to feel like this all the time. In fact you probably want to be free ofย  all that, you want to feel happy, confident but it’s just not happening.

Once I’d got over the tantrum/spiral, I realised that my anxiety and depression DID serve a purpose.

It kept me safe.

I didn’t feel safe because anxiety!

But I was also paralysed, scared to move forward in life, sometimes too scared to even step outside the front door.

My anxiety and depression were keeping me stuck in my supposed safe zone because doing anything different seemed way too scary.

๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜บ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ.

ย I could pretend I wanted change without actually making the changes because I was too anxious or depressed to do so.

Once I realised this, I was able to view my anxiety and depression in a different light, to see them not as the enemy and something I needed to fight against.

I started to listen to what they were trying to tell me, what they thought they were keeping me safe from, I learnt to use those insights to change my self talk, to expand my comfort zone.

In time, I left both anxiety and depression behind me, they are no longer a part of my life, I don’t need them any more. I listen to my intuition, to my body and allow them to guide me and keep me safe instead.