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When did you last take a good look at your body?

When did you last stand in front of a mirror and take a good look at your body?

And I don’t mean looking with a comparison sheet or wish list!

Have you ever looked at your body and appreciated it for the miracle that it is?

Let’s take our feet, so small in comparison to the rest of our body but they hold all of our weight, allows us to walk, run, jump and skip.

Or our hands, just think of the  sheer  number of things you do with your hands each day.

Our abdominal muscles and back muscles are designed to hold us upright when sitting or standing. 

The neck so thin, so fragile carries our head, possibly the heaviest part of us.

We are walking, talking miracles!

Have you ever stopped to consider that? 

To give gratitude to your body, to each and every part of it for how it carries you through a day?

Extended sympathy towards it when it hurts or doesn’t function as you would like?

Or do you just push through each day not really giving it much thought?

When we love and appreciate our bodies we change our relationship with ourselves on a deeper level. Learning to work with your body, showing yourself compassion, love and gratitude is the start to loving all of you.

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Is your body a temple?

Do you treat your body as a temple, to be honoured and revered?

Or is it your home, the space where you are comfortable, you keep it clean, well fed and give it enough sleep and exercise, but when the going gets tough you often let things slide?

Or do you see it as just a container, that doesn’t deserve your care or respect? You feed it rubbish, treat it badly and then feel bad about that but get stuck in a cycle of drowning out those feelings with bad food, alcohol or drugs?

Most of us are not in the body as a temple category. Modern life doesn’t really, in my view, allow for that. 

I’m firmly in the body is my home category. I endeavour to eat well, get plenty of exercise and sleep well. My body occasionally fights me on the sleep issue. Naturally, I am a night owl but the day  job requires me to be a lark, and sometimes come bedtime by body is not ready for rest. When this happens I meditate or give myself a Reiki treatment, that way I’m relaxing and my brain gets a much needed rest.

This wasn’t always the case though. There have been times when I treated my body appallingly. Usually when I was depressed, anxious or struggling in my relationship or job. Instead of acknowledging and processing those emotions, I either ate to subdue them or tried to exercise them away.

Now I try and catch myself before I let things slide, because I know it’s a slippery slope. I’ve learnt that how I treat my body, my physical form, effects how I feel emotionally and mentally and spiritually.

Because everything is ultimately connected to the body.

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What is your relationship with your body?

Do you love it? Accept it as it is, with no desires to change anything?

Do you treat it as a temple? Feed it healthy and nourishing foods? Keep it hydrated? Get plenty of sleep and sufficient exercise?

Or are you like most of the rest of us? Looking critically in the mirror and finding things you don’t like, parts that you want to be bigger, smaller, a different shape.

Are you influenced by what you see the media, by the whimsies of fashion, this season short skirts and thigh gaps, next season low cut tops and cleavages and feel you have to follow the trends in order to look good or fit in?

Would you like to be able to love YOUR body just as it is? To accept all its perceived flaws?

Because, believe the flaws you see are just your perception. The flaws other people think they see in other’s bodies stem from their hang ups about their own bodies. We judge because we feel judged. We reflect and mirror our own thoughts and feelings about our bodies onto others.

My body is not perfect, well not by society’s standards anyway, and my doctor would probably have a thing or two to say about my weight and occasionally not so great diet.

BUT and here’s the big BUTT! I have long ago accepted my body, and I realise that as I go through life that my body is constantly changing and for most of those changes there is absolutely nothing I can do that will affect them, growth and maturity happens to all of us. Yes, I could have surgery or use chemicals to hold back the effects of aging, but I reckon it’ll catch up with me one way or another and isn’t it better to go with the flow? Yes, my face and my hands may show that I have lived, smiled, laughed, loved, cried, worried and washed a shed load of dishes but that is what I am here for to experience life in all its glory.

To try and change my body would be to try and wipe away the experiences that have shaped me and it.

Every day, I give thanks to my body for carrying me through life. I try to exercise, eat healthily and get enough sleep. I don’t always succeed, and it shows. I have learned to be compassionate with myself, to forgive myself, and to tune into my body and ask what it needs to recover, to restore its equilibrium.

You see, we only have one body, the body we’re in. This our vehicle for life and just as you wouldn’t drive your car on flat tyres or without oil or coolant you shouldn’t be driving your body on incorrect fuel or lack of sleep.

The body though is not just a mechanical device, it is a whole system. A system that comprises of the physical, the mental, the emotional and spiritual, each of which feeds the other.

When we allow our emotions to drive we become overwhelmed and we then disregard the physical needs of the body. We feed it the wrong food, we drink alcohol, we smoke or take drugs all in an attempt to drown out those feelings because they scare us. Most of us grew up being told that feelings were bad, that we shouldn’t show anger, or cry, that showing our emotional side was somehow bad and we became embarrassed by emotions so we stuff them down and refuse to feel them.

BUT the body knows, my belief is that all our memories, our experiences good and bad are stored in the body. Have you ever thought about this? How you can pinpoint where in the body you feel something? How many of us get butterflies in our stomachs when we are scared or excited about something? A restriction in our chest and breathing when we feel anxious? Perhaps a headache when remember a particular event?

These memories and emotions stored in the body create energy blockages, the body tries to clear them by drawing your attention to that part of your body by creating a feeling or an emotion. Of course, we then, being human, get our thought processes involved and allow our thoughts to run away with us, to remember bad things or create catastrophic scenarios for ourselves. The brain and body don’t distinguish between the real and the imagined, so every time we take take ourselves down those scary avenues in our thoughts we’re adding to those energy blockages in the body.

And the body wants them cleared so it produces a physical sensation and an emotion to get your attention and we go off on the merry-go-round again!

We need to come back to the body, to the physical, to the vehicle in which we reside. When we learn to love and respect and give gratitude to the wonderful body we are in we are taking the first steps towards healing all of us. When we stop ignoring the body’s messages, and trying to drown them out with substances that are bad for it, and listen to them and give the body what it needs our whole system calms down because the body no longer has to shout for you you to hear, to act. A side effect of this is that a lot of those scary emotions will then subside.

Do you want to learn to Love YOUR Body?

To develop a loving, grateful relationship with that has the potential to change your whole life?

I’m working on a series of meditations to help you learn to Love YOUR Body and thus embark on a life changing journey.

Go to my COMING SOON for more information or click the link below to be kept in the loop!

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𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞!🙄🤷‍♀️

Was what one young lady who came to me suffering from anxiety announced as she lay on the treatment couch.

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙨𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩:

“When her hands were on my head I could see colours that I’d never seen before, really vividly. They were beautiful bright pinks and purples. I felt really intensely happy, so much so that I was trying not to smile. I could see the silhouette of a pair of hands making calming rocking motions. I thought maybe they were Niamh’s hands, and I could see them through my eyelids but when I opened my eyes to check I realised they weren’t hers. I felt very at peace and was overcome by a feeling of pure contentment. When they went away, I felt kind of sad, and wanted them back as their presence was really comforting. I then became very aware of my body and could feel parts of it that I don’t think I’ve ever felt before. There were strange, tingly pulses in my legs. I was super aware of my position and felt like my spine was misaligned with my legs, to the extent that I had to adjust to feel “straight.” I began to feel sad, but in an intense way and it felt almost good? Sort of cathartic, like it was good to feel it and everything was just right. I became a bit overwhelmed and scared for a bit as what I was feeling was really weird and intense and I’ve never felt anything like it. 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗶𝗸𝗶 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗻𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲.Towards the end I was beginning to see the happy colours again, but they were dimmer and a bit fuzzy.” 🌈🌈

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𝙄𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝?

Maybe!

But probably not!

While some people may experience deep healing with their first Reiki treatment most do not.

Reiki promotes, or in some cases starts the self-healing process, and more sessions are required to keep your energy balanced and the healing process working.

If you think of a problem you’ve had for a while, say a particularly knotty muscle, you know one massage isn’t going be enough to deal with it.

It is the same with Reiki although it works on an energetic level some of the blocks we experience may have been in place for a long time, and some of our ingrained thought processes cause those blockages so it takes a while and a few treatments to work through them.

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𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙞𝙤𝙣. 𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙙𝙤 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙞𝙤𝙣!

Reiki is not a religion, it can be a way of life, a path to spiritual awareness.

The system of Reiki works on the idea that we are all connected to the world in more than one way and as such there are four levels of healing:

the physical or the body,

emotional – your feelings and experiences

mental – your thoughts and attitudes and

spiritual – your connection with your higher self, the universe or source.

These are represented by the three diamonds or tandens.

We have our physical body represented by the lower tanden or hara placed about 2cm below the navel, which also represents our feelings of safety, security, and groundedness our Earth Energy.

The upper tanden, sometimes referred to as the third eye, represents our thoughts, our intuition, our creativity our connection to spirit, our Heaven Energy.

The middle tanden also known as the heart chakra represents love, inner peace, gratitude and our connection to others, our connection and awareness that we are not alone but one with the everyone and everything in the universe, this energy is called Oneness.

Healing is becoming whole, uniting all those parts of us, not just healing the physical symptoms but looking at all the elements that led to development of those symptoms.

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I do not feel any different, so Reiki doesn’t work!!!

I have heard this a few times. People get up off the treatment couch saying they feel quite relaxed but nothing else.

They were expecting fireworks or at the very least their ailment to be immediately cured. Reiki does not work like that. It is more subtle. It works quietly away in the background. It activates the body’s self-healing.

We are more than the body, we are our thoughts, our emotions, and our spiritual side too – Reiki works on all these levels.

When I was suffering from panic attacks Reiki brought me peace in the moment, but it was a while before I was able to track down what was causing the anxiety and deal with the external problems and then my thoughts around it. Reiki gave me the calmness, the clarity to be able to seek out the causes for the anxiety both external and internal. The panic attacks became less intense and less frequent and then faded out altogether as I dealt with the issues in my life that were the root cause of the stress and anxiety I felt that led to the overthinking which led to panic attacks.

But it is only looking back that I can fully see the process I went through at the time it was far from comfortable. I kept going with the daily self-treatments and monthly Reiki shares, and the occasional treatment from another Reiki practitioners. A few years ago panic attacks were ruling my life, now I could not tell you when I last had one.

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Can Reiki connect us?

A few years ago during a Reiki course we were split up into random groups to give each other Reiki.

One of the members of my group had mentioned earlier in the day that she was struggling with a knee injury. She volunteered to receive Reiki first and lay on the treatment couch. As I prepared myself to give her Reiki I noticed the other members of the group make a beeline for her knees. I decided to hang back for a moment to see where I was guided to.

My intuition was telling me to put my hearts above the middle tanden, or heart chakra, the place in our physical body that represents love and our connection not just to other humans but also the universe. As I placed my hands over her heart space I was immediately assailed by visions of soldiers. These were young soldiers and they appeared on a break from duties, they were chatting and laughing and passing around photographs.

I kept my hands above her heart space for the duration of the treatment and saw the same young soldier, dressed in full uniform, marching, then running. At one point I saw him run to a young woman and hug her. He appeared to be somewhere with a hot climate.

At the end of the treatment as we discussed what she had felt said that she felt a lot of heat around her knees and that her knee ached less. I asked her if there were any soldiers in her immediate family, she thought about this for a while but couldn’t come up with an answer. I didn’t pursue it and we continued with the treatments.

A few weeks later, we both turned up to a Reiki share and she asked me if I remembered that I had seen soldiers when giving her Reiki. I said that I did

and she then went on to tell me that her much older brother whom she hadn’t heard from in over twenty years had called her from Australia that evening. He had been in the army as a young man, she had been a child at the time so didn’t see much of him and had forgotten this part of his history.

Was it Reiki that had reconnected them?

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Panic attacks…

Ten years ago, I was a depressed anxious mess.

Struggling to get from one moment to the next.

One day I had a panic attack on the bus. I truly thought I was having a heart attack. I didn’t know what to do so I got off the bus and walked the rest of the way, my breathing getting shallower and faster, my chest constricted with pain.

I decided to go the GP. I didn’t get the reassurance I thought I would, instead the GP seemed really concerned and I was sent for a battery of tests. The results trickled in over the next few days, all fine. My heart was in robust health, for my age!

At no time did any medical person suggest a panic attack might have been the cause of my pain, it was only through googling my symptoms that it began to dawn on me that is indeed what it was.

That realisation though seemed only to make matters worse they began to be increasingly frequent, to the point I was afraid to leave the house.

I had the tools to supposedly deal with anxiety, I regularly practised yoga and meditation. But they required concentrating on the breath and trying to focus on and control my breath when I was struggling to breath just increased the feeling of panic, and made my breathing quicker, shallower, I thought I was going to pass out.

Another day on the bus, when I couldn’t get off, I decided to try Reiki. I connected to Reiki and placed my hands lightly on my knees. I began to feel the heat and tingling in my hands that I normally associate with Reiki, concentrating on this and the feel of my of the warmth of my hands on my knees allowed my breathing to return to normal and the panic subsided. I felt a sense of calmness wash over me and almost missed my stop.

Reiki had given me hope, a window into the future.

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I never thought I could be happy…

For years, I suffered from low level depression and anxiety, that had really just become so much part of who I was that I accepted it as just life. I always had worries, about money, about my children, my parents, my health and the health of others. My relationship was breaking down and I lived in a state of fear. Whenever I tried to discuss it with anyone, I was made feel like I was just complaining.

Yet people told me they were in awe of me, I was so organised holding down a full-time job, bringing up three children almost single-handedly, I never forgot a mufti day or any of the children’s activities. But I was like the proverbial swan, serene and graceful on the surface but paddling furiously underneath.

Then there was a major re-organisation on the work front and my job began causing me huge amounts of stress, at the same my daughter’s illness exacerbated, and while I still worried about finances, I took the decision to leave work and take some time out.

That is when the full force of depression and anxiety hit. Having, for the first time in years, time to myself I found I was at a loss, I had no idea how to sit still, to just be in the moment. I had spent decades rushing from one over-planned task to the next. Now there were days of nothingness facing me, I rattled around the house just waiting for school pick-up time. I was so burnt out and so lacking in confidence I barely knew how to talk to anyone at the school gates. I found myself withdrawing, going deeper and deeper into the dark well of depression. There did not seem to be a way out.

It was through a chance discussion with someone at a yoga class that I subscribed to Hay House and started to receive emails from them about podcasts and books. One day I opened one of those emails and it was offering me a free book about Reiki. I read the book and I literally lit up from the inside out, I knew I had to find out more and embarked on my journey to become a Reiki Master/Teacher.

I never thought that I could be happy or stress free yet every day I wake up with a smile on my face and feel so grateful to be here and for the experiences and opportunities that lead me to this point. Reiki helped me find the calm, the peace, the clarity I sought and to make some very difficult but rewarding changes to my life. Now I use Reiki to help others do the same.