Why do I need to change my relationship with my body?
A lot of us don’t have the greatest relationship with our bodies.
We eat too much or eat the wrong foods, we drink alcohol, coffee and tea in quantities that harm us. We don’t take enough exercise or we drive ourselves to the brink doing too much. We stay up late at night scrolling social media looking for the answers to our problems.
Of course we don’t do this to punish ourselves or because we intrinsically hate ourselves or because we want to create future health problems.
We do it because we are trying to not to feel, to acknowledge the pain we are in. We don’t want it to resurface, it hurt us and we don’t want experience that hurt again.
Our bodies store the memories and the trauma we have suffered.
And the body wants to release the hurt, the trauma, so it triggers an emotion or feeling and even sometimes actual pain in the body.
Most of us don’t want to go through that hurt again so we we stuff it down by distracting ourselves with food, drink, exercise, social media, and so on.
This is not a conscious decision, we have developed patterns and habits that have just become automatic. Feel sad? Chocolate will cure it!
Some of us were brought up with food seen as a reward or a special treat or a way to avoid dealing with a problem. Instead teaching us how to deal with our emotions we were taught to avoid them and feed the body.
In time, the body begins to rebel. It really wants you to acknowledge those stored memories and traumas and deal with them. It tries to catch your attention by creating feelings. And we wonder why we can’t shift this feeling, why it keeps coming up? What is wrong with me?
When we think these thoughts often enough they become part of our subconscious, we create negative, anxious and depressive thoughts and we feed them with food, alcohol or drugs because that is what we have been taught.
So how do we change this?
We change it connecting with the body. By quietening the mind and allowing the body to speak. Listening to the body, feeling where those traumas and memories are stored and releasing them.
We reconnect with the body by learning to appreciate it and respect it for the marvellous miracle that it is.
We practice gratitude for all that it brings us, and accept its limitations and respect its needs.
We acknowledge that the body knows itself.
When we have reconnected with the body on a physical level and learnt to love, accept and respect it, we will find that our habits change. We are no longer reaching for food or drink to quell our feelings, the body trusts us to listen and deal with the emotions it triggers.
We step into our true power when we have linked the body, the mind and the spirit. When we can listen to our body and know intuitively what we need.