Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Self care, Self love

Come join The Self Care Revolution

Come join The Self Care Revolution

It’s time you learned how to look after YOU properly!

time you implemented a self care routine that leaves you feeling

cared for

nurtured

energised

replenished.

Self care that means you looking after your physical, mental and emotional health.

Self care that encourages resilience and the ability to bounce back from all that life throws at you.

Self care that allows you to stick to your boundaries without feeling selfish.

Self care that is created for YOU by YOU.

It’s time for THE SELF CARE REVOLUTION!

A free 2 part masterclass where you will gain a deeper understanding of  yourself and how to implement a self care routine that works for you.

You can join here!

Change, Health and Wellbeing, Journaling, Meditation, Reiki, Self care, Self love

You are the only one who can validate how you feel!

You are the only one that can validate your feelings.

After yoga, this morning there was a conversation about emotions and what to do when someone invalidates how you feel.
 
For years, I found expressing my emotions very difficult because I was always either shut down or told I was being irrational or over sensitive. So I got to a point where I not only failed to express my emotions, I didn’t even acknowledge them. I would just stuff them down, tell myself everything would sort itself out or that I was resilient and would get through this.
 
Then I was introduced to Louise Hay and her affirmation “this too will pass” became one of my favourites. It was useful for enabling me to deal with life when things were hard but in some ways it also gave me carte blanche to ignore my feelings as they too would pass.
 
The trouble with ignoring your feelings is that you then end up anxious, depressed, stressed, resentful or angry or a combination of these. When this happens you may have the occasional meltdown because those feelings will erupt when you least expect it. This is when those around are most likely to invalidate your feelings, telling you that you are overreacting which you well may be because the eruption can be caused by the smallest of things which acts as a touch light and opens the flood gate to all the repressed emotions.
 
A good self care routine allows you the space and freedom to feel, express and validate your own emotions. You don’t need anyone else telling you how you should feel or dismissing your feelings, they’re not in your body living your life so they can’t possibly know how you feel. You are the only one who can validate how you feel.
 
The women in my free group are working with the affirmation “I allow myself to unapologetically feel all of my feelings” this week. When life gets busy it can be easy to just push something down and get on with the tasks in front of you but when you practise good self care you leave yourself time in your day to feel and process those feelings.
 
If you haven’t got a good self care routine or don’t know how to implement one I have a free guide to help you. Link here.
 
Or if you would like to join the women in my group working on building their confidence through implementing good self care you’ll find the link for that here.
Meditation, Reiki, Self care, Self love, Spirituality

𝙒𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙧𝙩.

𝙒𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙧𝙩.

Meditation is an art as well as a skill.

It differs for everyone, in how you approach it, what works for you on any particular day, what you achieve from your practice.

As well as bringing calm, clarity and relaxation it also enhances your creativity. Guided meditations can help you see the world differently, the words you hear both on a conscious and subconscious level allow you to create different images or visions, or change how you feel or think about something. Listening to the words, letting them wash over you, absorbing them, can open you up to new possibilities.

Writing and recording meditations is also an art. There is skill and precision in knowing when to pause and allow your words or voice a moment to be embodied or to allow any emotions that arise to be processed or to pass. Knowing how much time to give the meditator to achieve a state of relaxation before you address changing a thought or belief or taking them on an empowerment journey is crucial as is bringing them out of the meditative state and back to the present moment.

All artists deserve recognition and reward for their work. You wouldn’t go to an art gallery and presume you can just take a painting or sculpture you like home with you, you know you have to pay for it and you are prepared to do so. You pay for designer clothes and shoes because they endow a certain status upon you and you don’t quibble or shirk from paying the price. You pay to listen to the music you love, either by buying the CD or download or paying for a streaming service.  

 

This is why I sell my meditations, why I ask you to part with actual money in order to experience them. I value my time, my artistry, the skills and energy it takes to create an experience for you that will change you in some way. Meditations are not just something you listen to once, like the songs, books, films, they can be enjoyed over and over again bringing something different each time. I don’t charge designer fees though as I want my meditations to be accessible to all whatever their financial status as I believe meditation has the power to change your life.

If you are unsure what you are buying and want to know more please do contact me and I will answer your questions, or check out my reels where I have lots of short meditations so you can hear my voice, my words, my intonations and decide if they resonate with you. Because I know that feeling where you find a meditation you think is just right for what you need and a few minutes in the voice grates on you and there are bells and or other irritating sounds that prevent you from achieving a relaxed state. All of my meditations use the same background music, but if you just wanted my voice with no music I can do that easily for you, all you have to do is ask.

 If you want a meditation to address a particular worry or issue and I don’t have one available, then again ask. All things are possible for those who ask!

Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Self care, Self love

Changing how you see self care is the cornerstone of my business

𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.

Those of you who follow me here may have noticed that I have a tendency to disappear from your feeds every now and again. This is because, as well as running my business, I work part-time teaching Maths to 4-8 year olds with special needs and learning difficulties and so towards the end of each term I am exhausted and don’t have the capacity to post on Facebook every day, or least not the creative, insightful posts I like to share. I have contented myself recently with posting quotes which speak to me, and judging by the reactions I get they resonate with a lot of you too. My hope with the quotes is that they give you a feel for what I do for my clients and my ideals and values.
 
I could, I guess take the plunge and, give up the day job but it brings me so much joy to be part of the children’s journey not just helping them understand Maths but also being someone in their lives that has their back. I work with them on a one to one basis or in very small groups so my classroom doesn’t have the same structure and rules as their usual class. We explore number and calculation using all of our senses and our bodies. When I am teaching counting we walk around the building counting steps on the stairs, pictures on the walls. We examine the windows and talk about the shapes they can see and compare the length and height of them. We look at all the numbers we can see around the school and discuss what they mean and their relevance so that the children absorb the idea that Maths is not just something to be suffered but is all around them and an integral part of life. They begin to see the beauty and the pattern in the shapes and the numbers and how they can apply them to their work and this changes everything. There is a beauty and an art in Maths that few people see because of the way it is taught, if I can change that for a few then I have achieved something great.
 
So, while I love my business and I love helping women learn to love themselves by improving thier self care, building their confidence and see themselves in a different light I also love teaching and at the moment want to keep doing both. This means though that I have to be extra strict with my own self care to ensure that I am able to give the best of myself to both my Maths teaching and my business clients. So, sometimes I go quiet on Facebook, and don’t promote all the wonderful meditations I have for sale, or the power hours where I help women uncover their self limiting beliefs and give them the tools to change them, so many of you may not know what I do or what I can help you achieve, because I need time away from the screen. I need to be on my yoga mat, or meditating, or giving myself Reiki or reading and sometimes just doing nothing or sleeping.
 
Self care was not always the top of my priority list, indeed for many years it didn’t really exist for me. Now I see it as the most important aspect of my wellbeing, because if I don’t feel loved, cared for or nurtured then I don’t have the capacity to give to others as fully as I want to. Changing how we see self care and the importance of self care is the cornerstone of my business, and to a large extent my teaching, because if you can’t show yourself you are worth spending your time on how can you expect others to?
Change, Health and Wellbeing, Journaling, Reiki, Self love

Boundaries

Boundaries

For years, I had no boundaries. I didn’t even know or understand what they were. Even the few I did mange to unknowingly put in were usually trampled all over.

 

This was mostly because I didn’t see my time or me as a worthwhile or valuable. I put myself and my needs to the bottom of the pile so frequently that I couldn’t actually remember any of the things I used to enjoy doing just for me.

This was highlighted at the height of my depression when the counsellor I was seeing asked me what I liked to do with my free time. At that point in my life, with three young children and a house to run free time was scarce and when I did have some I usually spent it catching up on household chores. I couldn’t answer the question because It had been so long since I’d actually taken time just for me, to do the things that I loved to do that I’d forgotten what they were.

So I made a commitment that day to schedule some time for me. So two mornings a week, once I’d dropped the children to school, I went to a yoga class. On the other three weekday mornings, I decided to either sit and read or to write. I was an avid bookworm as a child and young adult but had let it slip in favour of watching TV because it was easier and somehow my ex thought he was getting my attention if I was watching a program with him rather than sat reading. My writing initially started as journaling but then veered towards poetry. I have written poetry for as long I can remember but again in the busyness of life had let it slip.

It took being diagnosed with severe clinical depression and a nudge from my counsellor to make me start looking at me and the things I needed to do for my own well being. Once I started though, I realised how much I missed doing those things, how good it felt to do something just for me. The side effects were even better! I began to feel more confident, my self-worth and value increased exponentially and I began to put boundaries in, at first just around my “me time” but they naturally began to extend to the rest of my life.

Body Image, Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Uncategorized

How’s your January going?

Did you set goals or resolutions for the New Year?

If you did have you managed to stick to them?

Or have you given up?

It’s hard isn’t? The weather is cold, you’re working, looking after children or parents or both. There are only so many hours in the day and you don’t have time to exercise or cook properly. So you leave it to another day.

And you keep getting told that you just need to change your mindset and everything will magically fall in to place.

But you don’t know how to do that, you’ve tried affirmations but you really sure your were doing it right.

The thing is that yes, you do need to change your mindset but the changes need to start in your body.

The body stores all your memories, hurts and traumas, the emotions you haven’t processed because you’re too scared to feel them again. This causes energy blockages and prevents the body functioning as well as it can so it sends you signals to get you to process the emotions you’ve stored.

We ignore these signals or squash down the emotions with food, alcohol, nicotine or drugs. 

The body doesn’t give up it keeps sending signals and you end up with a physical illness or anxiety and depression or all three.

So how do we solve this?

We do it by getting back in touch with the body. Learning to love and respect it. 

When we respect the body we will listen to it, we will process those emotions and we won’t be reaching for whatever junk we were using to supress them.

Body Image, Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Reiki, Healing, Gratitude, Spirituality, Uncategorized

Why do I need to change my relationship with my body?

Why do I need to change my relationship with my body?

A lot of us don’t have the greatest relationship with our bodies.

We eat too much or eat the wrong foods, we drink alcohol, coffee and tea in quantities that harm us. We don’t take enough exercise or we drive ourselves to the brink doing too much. We stay up late at night scrolling social media looking for the answers to our problems.

Of course we don’t do this to punish ourselves or because we intrinsically hate ourselves or because we want to create future health problems.

We do it because we are trying to not to feel, to acknowledge the pain we are in.  We don’t want it to resurface, it hurt us and we don’t want experience that hurt again.
   

Our bodies store the memories and the trauma we have suffered. 

And the body wants to release the hurt, the trauma, so it triggers an emotion or feeling and even sometimes actual pain in the body.

Most of us don’t want to go through that hurt again so we we stuff it down by distracting ourselves with food, drink, exercise, social media, and so on.

This is  not a conscious decision, we have developed patterns and habits that have just become automatic. Feel sad? Chocolate will cure it!

Some of us were brought up with food seen as a reward or a special treat or a way to avoid dealing with a problem. Instead teaching us how to deal with our emotions we were taught to avoid them and feed the body.

In time, the body begins to rebel. It really wants you to acknowledge those stored memories and traumas and deal with them. It tries to catch your attention by creating feelings. And we wonder why we can’t shift this feeling, why it keeps coming up? What is wrong with me?

When we think these thoughts often enough they become part of our subconscious, we create negative,  anxious and depressive thoughts and we feed them with food, alcohol or drugs because that is what we have been taught.

So how do we change this?

We change it connecting with the body. By quietening the mind and allowing the body to speak. Listening to the body, feeling where those traumas and memories are stored and releasing them.

We reconnect with the body by learning to appreciate it and respect it for the marvellous miracle that it is. 

We practice gratitude for all that it brings us, and accept its limitations and respect its needs.

We acknowledge that the body knows itself. 

When we have reconnected with the body on a physical level and learnt to love, accept and respect it, we will find that our habits change. We are no longer reaching for food or drink to quell our feelings, the body trusts us to listen and deal with the emotions it triggers.

We step into our true power when we have linked the body, the mind and the spirit. When we can listen to our body and know intuitively what we need. 

Body Image, Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Uncategorized

Is your body a temple?

Do you treat your body as a temple, to be honoured and revered?

Or is it your home, the space where you are comfortable, you keep it clean, well fed and give it enough sleep and exercise, but when the going gets tough you often let things slide?

Or do you see it as just a container, that doesn’t deserve your care or respect? You feed it rubbish, treat it badly and then feel bad about that but get stuck in a cycle of drowning out those feelings with bad food, alcohol or drugs?

Most of us are not in the body as a temple category. Modern life doesn’t really, in my view, allow for that. 

I’m firmly in the body is my home category. I endeavour to eat well, get plenty of exercise and sleep well. My body occasionally fights me on the sleep issue. Naturally, I am a night owl but the day  job requires me to be a lark, and sometimes come bedtime by body is not ready for rest. When this happens I meditate or give myself a Reiki treatment, that way I’m relaxing and my brain gets a much needed rest.

This wasn’t always the case though. There have been times when I treated my body appallingly. Usually when I was depressed, anxious or struggling in my relationship or job. Instead of acknowledging and processing those emotions, I either ate to subdue them or tried to exercise them away.

Now I try and catch myself before I let things slide, because I know it’s a slippery slope. I’ve learnt that how I treat my body, my physical form, effects how I feel emotionally and mentally and spiritually.

Because everything is ultimately connected to the body.

Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Reiki, Healing, Gratitude, Uncategorized

𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞!🙄🤷‍♀️

Was what one young lady who came to me suffering from anxiety announced as she lay on the treatment couch.

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙨𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙖 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩:

“When her hands were on my head I could see colours that I’d never seen before, really vividly. They were beautiful bright pinks and purples. I felt really intensely happy, so much so that I was trying not to smile. I could see the silhouette of a pair of hands making calming rocking motions. I thought maybe they were Niamh’s hands, and I could see them through my eyelids but when I opened my eyes to check I realised they weren’t hers. I felt very at peace and was overcome by a feeling of pure contentment. When they went away, I felt kind of sad, and wanted them back as their presence was really comforting. I then became very aware of my body and could feel parts of it that I don’t think I’ve ever felt before. There were strange, tingly pulses in my legs. I was super aware of my position and felt like my spine was misaligned with my legs, to the extent that I had to adjust to feel “straight.” I began to feel sad, but in an intense way and it felt almost good? Sort of cathartic, like it was good to feel it and everything was just right. I became a bit overwhelmed and scared for a bit as what I was feeling was really weird and intense and I’ve never felt anything like it. 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗥𝗲𝗶𝗸𝗶 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗻𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲.Towards the end I was beginning to see the happy colours again, but they were dimmer and a bit fuzzy.” 🌈🌈

Health and Wellbeing, Reiki, Reiki, Healing, Gratitude, Spirituality, Uncategorized

𝙄𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙠𝙞 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝?

Maybe!

 

But probably not!

 

While some people may experience deep healing with their first Reiki treatment most do not.

 

Reiki promotes, or in some cases starts the self-healing process, and more sessions are required to keep your energy balanced and the healing process working.

 

If you think of a problem you’ve had for a while, say a particularly knotty muscle, you know one massage isn’t going be enough to deal with it.

 

It is the same with Reiki although it works on an energetic level some of the blocks we experience may have been in place for a long time, and some of our ingrained thought processes cause those blockages so it takes a while and a few treatments to work through them.