Change, Health and Wellbeing, Journaling, New Year, Uncategorized

Where are you abandoning yourself?

Where have you abandoned yourself?

This is the question that popped into my mind this morning as I sat to meditate.
My initial reaction was “What? I’ve never abandoned myself!”
But on journaling and further reflection, I realised I have abandoned myself time and time again.
Every time I’ve allowed myself to sink into a depressive state.
Every time I’ve allowed myself to get caught up in anxiety and spiral into a panic attack.
Every time I ‘ve suppressed my emotions with food, drink, exercise or sleep.
Every time I failed to voice my needs or my boundaries.
I’ve abandoned myself by not acknowledging my feelings, by ignoring the bodily sensations that gave rise to them, by not giving myself the time, space or opportunity to process them.
𝗗𝗼 𝗜 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀? 𝗡𝗢!
I recognise when I’m doing it, or about to do it and pre-empt it, by taking a moment and allowing myself time to check in with my feelings and needs. It has become easier with practice.
Growing up, I wasn’t taught how to be there for myself. I’ve always known how to be there for others, to put them first because is what I learned to do.
I wasn’t taught to take care of me because those responsible for my care as a child and adolescent hadn’t been taught it either.
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝘁𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿.
So where are abandoning yourself?
If you want to change that and learn how to take care of yourself understanding how you deal with change, what motivates you to make changes and what you do that holds you back from making the changes you want, is crucial.
We will be working on this in my free workshop on the 5th January.  Join here.
Change, Health and Wellbeing, Journaling, New Year, Uncategorized, Workshop

Are you making resolutions for 2023?

Are you making changes in 2023?

As we say hello to a new calendar year many of you may feel the desire to change things up, to set new goals or resolutions.
You don’t have to, obviously.
It might be a good time for you to make adjustments to your habits, to learn new skills, embark on new hobbies or make other plans.
For some of you spring might be the best time, when the days are getting longer and things seem more hopeful.
For others, the start of the academic year can be when you find it best to set new things in action.
Do you actually know when your “best” time is?
Do you understand how you deal with change?
If you don’t know or understand your attitude to, and beliefs and thoughts around, change you are most likely not setting yourself up for success.
This goes hand in hand with understanding what motivates the change you want, the fears and beliefs around that.
You also need to understand the things you do that work against you making the change.
When you know these things about yourself then you are better prepared to take the first steps.
Change is easier to achieve when you take it one small step at time and build on each step, when you set realistic time frames you are setting yourself up for success.
Whether you are making changes now or later in the year, my free workshop will help, you understand yourself and change better so that whenever you decide to make the changes in your life that you want you are giving yourself the best chance at success. Link to join here.