Affirmations, Health and Wellbeing, Self love

Three questions to ask yourself feeling anxious.

Three questions to ask yourself when you are feeling anxious.

Feeling anxious is normal! Especially when you are about to do something new or different. 

Allowing that anxiety to stop you from doing doing things, however, is not good. It restricts your lifestyle and you lose out on opportunities.

So if you are feeling anxious about going somewhere new or different here are three questions to help you deal with that anxiety and a real life example of how they help me!

The first question I ask is  What am I really scared of?

When I ask myself this question the answer invariably comes back that I am scared of getting lost. I don’t like being in “strange” places where I don’t know anyone or don’t recognise landmarks. I also hate being late, so getting lost adds to the stress of getting places at the time I agreed.

So having established that I then ask the second question  What are the chances of this happening?

Well it’s me and I don’t have a very good sense of direction and maps continue to be a complete mystery to me so there is a 95% chance that I will get lost!

This is where the third question come into its own. Can I plan for that or make a different choice?

I could choose not to go but that would lead to a pretty miserable life I chose to never go anywhere new. So I plan my route beforehand, I look on Google maps street view and identify landmarks to help me. If I am using public transport I plan and alternative route in case of delays or cancellations. I also let my son know where I am going as he has an excellent sense of direction and if I do inevitably end up getting lost I can call him and he can look at Google maps and tell me exactly where I need to go. If he is not available I just take a few deep breaths and step into knowing that I won’t be lost forever. I also know that I can ask others for help too.

Recognising the fear of getting lost  and knowing that it is likely to happen has in some way taken a lot the anxiety away from it. It’s not as if I plan to get lost but when I do it’s not as much of an issue because I am aware that it might happen and I build in time to my plans so that I’m not late even if I do get lost.

If you are struggling with anxiety on a regular basis I have a free audio of affirmations to help you. You can grab them here.

 

Affirmations, Health and Wellbeing, Self care, Self love, Spirituality

Affirmations don’t work!

Affirmations Don't Work!

If I had a pound for every time someone has told me that affirmations don’t work I would be a very rich woman indeed. 

So many say that they are “woo” or fluffy and that they do nothing.

If the affirmations you are, or have been using, are doing nothing for you, then you are using the wrong affirmations.

You see they are not meant to be easy. You don’t just repeat the words over and over and hope they’ll sink in and magically change your life!

And you give up to soon and too easily!

Because I bet the first time you used an affirmation it either felt bland or it brought up all sort of uncomfortable feelings and your brain ran riot trying to disprove what you were telling it.

If it felt meh or even good then it was the wrong affirmation – you don’t need that one, try another one.

The one that brought up the horrible feelings and negative thought cycles?

That is the affirmation you need!

But you ran away because it didn’t feel good and you were told that’s what affirmations do.

You possibly feel lied to and hoodwinked.

You weren’t. You just weren’t told how affirmations are really supposed to work!

they are supposed to bring up all the uncomfortable feelings and negative thoughts because that’s how you know you what you need to work on.

If you use the affirmation, for example, ” I love and approve of myself” and it makes you feel all squirmy and you want to avoid the feelings that come up then you know you have some work to do on loving and approving yourself. 

You most likely have deep seated beliefs that you are not good enough or that you are unworthy of love or approval. 

This is what you need to address!

You need to work on loving yourself and seeing your worth and as you do so the affirmation will begin to feel more comfortable and as you repeat it you begin to believe it and it’s worked it’s magic. You can say that you love and approve of yourself because you have done the work and can see how loveable and worthy you are.

That is how affirmations work. They are not a magic wand or spell. They require your willingness to change long held beliefs and thoughts about yourself, by helping you find them in first place.

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