𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙙𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙗𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪, 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙨, 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙧𝙚𝙨.

Last night I settled down on the sofa with a cup a tea, cat on my knee and Netflix. I don’t normally watch TV during term time as it’s so easy to get sucked into watching just one more episode and staying up way too late and being exhausted the following day. As a consequence I am usually way behind current trends, so forgive me! 

“YOU” was the series that popped up first and having watched the first two series I thought I’d give it a go. It is dark and hopefully, not lifelike!

I kept being drawn to the fact that Joe, one of the main characters, talked to his son about how he was a different person now, he was trying to be good, to be the best husband and father he could and the changes he’d made or was trying to make were for his son.

And, this my friends, is where Joe is going wrong!

We can’t make lasting changes if we’re making them for others. We feel too much external pressure to be or do something for someone else, the motivation wanes, we feel a greater sense of failure when we don’t achieve what we set out to do. That sets us back and causes resentment.

Real change can only come about when it is driven by you, your needs, wants and desires.

If you are not sure who or what is driving the changes you are trying to make in your life then my book will help you work that out. Link here.